Meeting Thai girls on the Internet

Interested in making some Thai friends before traveling to Thailand. Has anyone had much success meeting Thai Friends on the Internet?

I've come across a few sites that seem pretty good.

www.thailandfriends.com</a><BR><BR>Anyone have suggestions or stories?

Cheers!

Are you seracing for a girlfriend?

Giving you the benefit of doubt as to being a troll, and at the risk of being severely trashed for my opinions, I'll give you some GENERALISATIONS concerning your question. ( I have no personal experience of such web sites, and anything I say is just what I have picked up over many years. )
I'm assuming that you want to go out with them once you arrive in Thailand, and I'm also assuming you've never been in Thailand before, and are not interested in "pay for play" friends.

"Nice" Thai women are hard for a farang to get to know. Everything I've heard, says that they will only go out with farangs once they've got to know them really well, which takes a long time. A lot of that is to do with the ASSUMPTION that any Thai woman going out with a farang man is a "hooker".

Most Thai women on such sites are advertising for a husband.

Any Thai woman prepared to go out with a farang that she has only "met" on the internet, is probably going to have a "financial" interest in the relationship.

Before anyone trashes me for the above, I've said that it's generalisations. I'm sure there are lots of great casual friendships between Thai women and farang men on holiday, but I've never seen such myself.

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In Pattaya there are lots of "temporary" holiday relationships, where the girl stays with the guy for weeks at a time. She doesn't dress trashy, but is still assumed to be a hooker, and there's not always a big age gap either, as many of the guys are quite young.

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That is a fact. Experienced it myself.

Maibah, There have been many, many posts pointing out that there's more to Pattaya than hookers. If someone goes there wanting to see hookers, sure, there's plenty, but it's also an interesting, and cheap, place to stay for a few days. In Thailand you can find whatever you desire.
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Ever been there, or are you just going by hearsay?

hmm, let me add to all the gereralizations so far. women are the same everywhere. you will soon weed out the ones only interested in money. being they are on the internet, they are one step ahead of the thai cultural gal, which you wouldn't want to meet anyway. obviously if they start talking money, marriage, tractor/buffalo, brother sick, then move on to the next.

what's more important is what you are looking for. guessing just a friend to vacation with, that might be a little harder than a relationship, which is actually not realistic unless you plan on living here. ask upfront if they would like to do what you wish, travel or vacation together either locally or out and about. need to know if she has the freedom (work, family, peer pressure) to do so, and if interested. good luck.

I've met loads of women from that site - at least 15 and they're all sorts, from 21 year old students to 35 year old University lecturers . In fact I've met loads from all over Asia, not just Thailand, from sites just like that. Nothing wrong with them at all. There's Malaysian and Philippine equivalents to sites like that where it's just as easy to send a message and get chatting online and then, later, meet them for a coffee or a night out in Bangkok, Chiang Mai, KL, or Manila.

sites like that mean you'll always get a date wherever you're going. All they'll do is get you started. After that, it's up to you.

I've only ever interracted with one hooker from a site like that, only I never met her, because she's in Phuket and I've never been there nor ever wished to go. Contrary to what is sometimes puffed about on here and the Stickman, etc, sites,, she didn't try to pretend she was a bank teller or something, but admitted pretty much straight away that she was an Issaan bar girl there once she realised that I wouldn't think any the less of her because she happened to be a bargirl. Disarming honesty which you can, sometimes, find in Thailand.

Also there is Thai Love Links
Many of the women there have children,and most seem to live in the Udon Thani area .
Most are looking for a permanent ,not a casual relationship .
If you just want a short term holiday affair,it is easyier and more honest to just use Bar girls .

> "Nice" Thai women are hard for a farang to get to know.

Oh come on! It seems the only requirement is 'still having a pulse'. And the internet is indeed a stellar opportunity to meet people you otherwise wouldn't. Heck, just being online on Skype I get girls saying 'hello' all the time. I dind;t even know Skype had a feature to search for random contacts.

This site seems aimed at foreigners, but there's LOADS of Thai language community sites.

Then for the fun stuff there's CamFrog... :-))))) (It seems known now so the current fascist government may be trying to block it)

> Everything I've heard, says that they will only go out with farangs once
> they've got to know them really well, which takes a long time.

Yeah, up to a week in some cases where they play hard-to-get.

Cheers,
Chanchao

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yeah got to admit that's bullshit. Bangkok especially is not that much different to major cities in the West really these days.

It's really very easy to get dates with university educated Thai women with middle class jobs on the internet at least in Bangkok and Chiang Mai. Absolute piece of of piss. You've just got to build up a bit of a level of trust online first, and believe it or not in my experience 99 % of them DON'T try to pretend that they're something they're not and they're just not these total desperadoes you come across in the bars of Pattaya and Nana.

they might bring a friend with them at first to make sure you're not the Beast With Two Heads, but when it turns out that you're 1.80 tall, 70 kg, reasonably friendly and polite and look pretty much like the photos you've sent them, then you're away.

one problem is, if you don't live in Thailand, and tell them that you don't, and do in fact move around Asia during your longish trips in the region, like I do, then that's a mark against you. As #11 says, they're usually looking for something at least semi - permanent. If you do get on with them, what happens is that you go out with them a few times and it isn't long before they either they decide that you're not up to scratch, and they'd sooner shag one of the myriad of other guys that are floating around their social lives, or you end up shagging them yourself, pretty much the same as at home really.

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Gotta agree with the most recent posts on this one. Thai women are very easy to meet, on the internet or elsewhere.

A lot of the "nice/good Thai girl" stuff is nonsense. For one, I find it incredibly easy to meet Thai college girls (like many girls who move away from home, they tend to be less conservative when they are away from home).

A close Thai friend once said to me...." Steve, if you want a meet a nice Thai lady, go to the temple in the morning not the bar at night".
Pretty sound advice i'd say.

Yeah, but there is such a thing as 'too' good. An issue used to be (less so now) that the bad ones are too bad, the good ones too good.. Fortunately this improved.

There was an article in the Bangkok Metro a couple of years back in which the athor wrote of his experiences with online dating in Thailand.

His findings where not encouraging (or maybe they were..says he trying not to be so judgmental).

A significant proportion of the women he met over the internet turned out out to be women of the second order.

Caveat Emptor.

Yup.. Not unlike IRL.

Are you looking to meet friends or girls?
Are you looking for a relationship, to get married, or to just have sex?
Are you young and fairly fit, or aging and expanding?
Are you willing to pay, or not?

If you're willing to pay, stop wasting time on the internet. It's full of vultures. (I have zero experience with this, but I think I'm making a safe assumption.) Besides, women are everywhere here; once you get here, you'll understand what I'm saying. Why shop ebay, when you can shop Soi Cowboy and the infinite others?

If your not willing to pay, this complicates matters considerably--go figure. It's very difficult to find genuine casual sex here. Just as you have your alterior motives for talking to her, she has her's for speaking with you. These matters are very complicated my friend. As I see it, there are six types of gals in Thailand.

1. Hookers (cheap and expensive)
2. Young naive girls (who only the lowest of the low take advatage of)
3. Young progressive gals (you're paying for it one way or the other)
4. Middle-aged hopefuls (desparate to convince themselves that if they hang aroung with you long enough, you'll marry them)
5. Older gals (they've either been with a farang previously, or used to be a bar girl and genuinely like farang...or perhaps just their money)
6. Diamonds in the rough (only the wickedly lucky meet these girls unless they've lived here for a while and know how to speak to these lovely ladies)

And adendums?

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While I'm not disputing your experience, if that's so, how come I've never seen ( not hooker ) Thai women going out with younger farang men ( and yes, I've spent lots of time in Thailand over many years )?

From my own personal experience meeting non sex industry women in Thailand was never a problem.

The problem was getting rid of them.

All too often what would be regarded as a friendly trial date in the west, the kind of easy relaxed date where you get to see if you might actually like this person or not, would turn into a near stalking experience.

I and many of my collegues have had the experience of some girl I was half polite to, latching on like we'd been married half a life time.

I had a friend who peaked at over 20 calls a day from a girl he had spent less than an two hours talking to at a party.

it's perfectly normal for Thai women to meet guys over the internet these days, and not just foreign ones.

It's full of vultures. (I have zero experience with this, but I think I'm making a safe assumption.

Huh ? Don't you think it's a bit presumptuous for you to set himself up as this authority on online dating when by your own admission you admit that that you have zero experience of it ?

as it happens, as you'd know if you DID actually have any experience of it, it's easy to screen out those that are obviously on the make. There's plenty are university educated, metropolitan women with professional jobs that are simply interested in expanding their horizons and meeting people they would otherwise not have the chance meet, very few having jobs that bring them into contact with foreigners. There's simply a whole knew class of Thai Cosmogirl that didn't exist 15 - 20 years ago and who think nothing of using the internet to expand their social lives.

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maybe because you walk around Bangkok with your eyes closed ?

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LOL.

Wow - this is insane. I have met people from ThailandFriends. Most of them are normal....some are a bit crazy. I have met people from other sites as well. I met my fiance on the internet (not TF, but elsewhere). We started as friends, but it has evolved. It is what it is. It is not much different than meeting someone from the internet in your own country. My girl is the same age as me. She doesnt work in a bar. She has never worked in a bar. She is not from Issan. She lives in BKK. It is up to you. These places are open to everyone, so you will find a general representation of the "internet literate" on them. Use your discretion and you will be fine. I happen to know a very happy couple that met on TF and have no problems. In fact, she has a great deal of money and is not interested in anything but him.

Wow - this is insane. I have met people from ThailandFriends. Most of them are normal....some are a bit crazy. I have met people from other sites as well. I met my fiance on the internet (not TF, but elsewhere). We started as friends, but it has evolved. It is what it is. It is not much different than meeting someone from the internet in your own country. My girl is the same age as me. She doesnt work in a bar. She has never worked in a bar. She is not from Issan. She lives in BKK. It is up to you. These places are open to everyone, so you will find a general representation of the "internet literate" on them. Use your discretion and you will be fine. I happen to know a very happy couple that met on TF and have no problems. In fact, she has a great deal of money and is not interested in anything but him.

OP other sites worth checking out are Orkut, Wayn, Hospitality Club, and Multiply.

>> Oh come on! It seems the only requirement is 'still having a pulse'

> While I'm not disputing your experience, if that's so, how come I've never seen ( not hooker )
> Thai women going out with younger farang men ( and yes, I've spent lots of time
> in Thailand over many years )?

You mean younger than they are? Or just 'young' as per your definition, or? I know loads. And then myself of course.

Chan, I'm referring to guys young enough not to qualify as the "old fat ugly men" much beloved of posters to this branch ( now there's a generalisation for you ). It would seem to me that if it were common for the type of relationship I'm talking about ( not married, not living together, non monetary ) there'd be some couples of farang male and Thai female in MBK, on the skytrain, around the shopping malls, in the parks, on the streets or really just anywhere around Bangkok in public. While I have no reason to doubt what you are saying, I can only assume that such relationships are restricted to a taxi ride to a restaurant or night club etc. In other words, not in general view ( nothing wrong with that ).
The comparison I'm making is with London, where there are lots of white male, asian female couples in public view. I realise that it is not strictly comparable, as probably they are both residents etc, but I'm wondering if Thai women in Bangkok are really comfortable about going out with farang men in public view, or prefer to keep their relationship more " out of the public eye". My personal experience of the attitude I'm referring to was with my first Thai girlfriend who refused to walk with me in public, as she didn't want people thinking she was a "hooker" ( and that was long enough ago that I didn't qualify as an old fat ugly man ). Needless to say we didn't stay together very long.
Whatever, the only ( not married, not living together, non monetary arrangement ) Thai farang couples I've seen in Thailand, have been Thai male, farang female. I've seen a few of those.

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I experienced some of that myself. My solution was to ditch and find someone a bit more secure in themselves. The attitude does exist, but I could not see any reason to pander to it.