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The reason I want to leave is because I feel like my family is killing what little personal space I have. I’m also not sure if my husband is the “one” for me. I will explode if I continue this way. I feel like I need to remove myself from the situation in order to make it go away. Otherwise, I’m still living under the same roof as my husband and mom (sometimes). My sister is pressuring me to buy a house next to her because “mom is getting weaker” and we need to take care of her together.

I’ve never been alone. And now that seems like that’s all I want to do. I actually don’t really have friends either because 100% of my time is spent with my family and husband. I had shared a room with my mom growing up because she’s scared to be alone. Then right after I’m married and now it’s with my husband. I want my own independence.

I had spoken to my husband about leaving for New Zealand or Australia to work for a period because we are both young and can do it. He doesn’t want to leave his parents (he’s a momma’s boy). The reason I am thinking of leaving him is because while things were tough for us, he just kept on running back to his mom, leaving me to deal with the issues all on my own. I then realized that I want a man that is stronger than I am; someone that I will and can look up to. My husband is a very good hearted man and very hard-working but he complains a lot and he likes to play “hero” in the work place where he’s “protecting his friends” and fight the “big boss”. This has gotten him fired twice already. I tell him to mind his own business and each time he says “you’re right honey, I should’ve listened to you”. What if this happens again and here we are with kids in the future?

I don’t want to continue with this and then look back 10 years down the road and regret on the things I didn’t do.

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You need to get into counseling. Travel won't cure these problems or issues. When you return they will still be there and there will be more.

Ruth

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I started talking to a therapiest yesterday. I hope by talking through it, it'll help with my sadness and confusion.

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good for you, hon. Why should we have to re-invent the wheel?

Our problems really aren't one of a kind.

good luck.

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Hmmm....I am going to take a different route. There is a voice inside you telling you to go live the life you want and IMO you should listen to it. Either your husband is "the one" or not, do not settle for second best. You do not have kids, so breaking up is never easy, but at least there won't be any collateral damage.

I left a long term relationship to go travelling 10 years ago and have never looked back, my life is awesome, way beyond anything I could expect living in the UK. I met and married the woman of my dreams and we have two beautiful children now. In four days time, we will be getting on a plane and travelling for four weeks through Asia, 2 and 3 yrs old in tow!

Good luck, this is your life and you owe it to yourself to follow your heart, because we should not regret the things we do, only the things we did not do.

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It tokk a suicide attempt to get me to follow my own star. Bitch of it is, the epiphany came about two minutes after I missed. That was 1962.

Think of what I'da missed!
*see profile.

PARADIGMS KILL.

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Scuba_albany --- It's very encouraging to hear that you've found the woman of your dreams and also living your dream now.
What's scary for me is that from a logical stand-point I seem to have everything but yet in my heart I feel so empty. I think I need to live life. Right now, it's as if I exist by breathing in air, wake up in the morning, eat breakfast, work, go home, eat dinner, sleep and the cycle starts all over again and again. What is one's meaning and purpose in life? To work, pro-create, accumulate material things, retire weak and old and then die?
Am I going through a mid-life crisis? I'm 28, that's kinda young to be going through that right? Maybe the the difficulties I've been going through in the past year made me think pessimistically about life.
But what if I do leave my logical thoughts behind and go with my heart, and then one day I wake up in the middle of no-where, with no friends, no family, and no one for me to love and no one to love me.
The toughest part for me is hurting the people that I care and love if and when I leave. What do I say? "I love you but I need to go live my life otherwise I'll go crazy?"

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yes. you say that. kids yet?

Following someone else's paradigm sheeple dreams, is near-beer happiness. a poor imitation. Makes great drunks though. But not free happy ones.

What did councilor hint?
none of my bus. and how do we know he or millionairs are happy?

The person behind your navel, is the first one you're responsible for.
Why should you play second string?

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hey Jenny....

My outlook on life is that you only live once... like you said how would you feel to look back and regret your life,
just go for it, pack a bag and see what happens... whatever you decide to do, good luck and i hope it helps

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Wondering how your hubby is taking all this.

If we ain't changing, we ain't growing.

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