Crossroads are good. Crossroads are growing times. Growing times come with growing pains. You need to do what you need to do, or you'll regret it and resent her for it.
As an early American philospher said, in twenty years, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did.
RiceDrift, I think looking at the end of your last response you've answered your own question (ie letting her go). You talk about her hopefully 'changing', but we all know she won't, she will only get more resentful and even suspicious of your wanting to take off. Us women always talk about 'men changing' etc after marriage, but it goes both ways.
If you have so much money, buy a SMALL place and go from there, use the money to ease off work, maybe freelance in whatever you do, and go on short trips. They're extremely satisfying. I myself get bored travelling on my own- I can't travel for more than say 3 weeks at a time before I want to head home. Not because of homesickness, but just for the freedom of not living out of a bag, being messy again, my own bed and shower etc. And I am always extremely well planned and organised as to what I want to see and do so I don't feel the need to go off on extended trips anyway.
Good luck with your decision....and at this point I want to say I really wish I could find a guy as free as you to travel and work overseas with, though they're all much younger than me and taken :(.
I know several guys who followed girls, back thier home country. It wasn't the same they. They were outsiders.She returned to her friends.
The same would happen to you two. It would be strictly her gig or yours. If you ain't changin', you ain't growin'.
Why fester? Life's too short. Later for Philly. Follow Your star.
You have to go with your heart, and it doesn't sound as if your heart is in the relationship. It's already on the road, waiting for you to catch up.
Tough decision. You have already done some traveling, so you know what it is all about. I was in a similar position 4 years ago and decided to postpone my travels for my wife. BUT, my waiting was mostly done in Thailand with her. Not a bad place to hang out. She initially did not want to travel at all, but now loves it...and we are now into over 2 years of traveling full time. Currently in Nicaragua, headed back to Costa Rica, and planning a trip to the middle east starting in a few months...that will hopefully last for 6 months. We both love to travel!
One or two weeks trips are not that fun, IMHO. I think you will be hating life. But it is a tough decision. I love my wife, and we have a great time together. I traveled solo for well over a year, but really like having a travel partner.
Best of luck with your decision!
You're 39--you beat Jesus by 6 years! Go do what you want--you're too old to accomplish anything now. At work we tried to come up with someone who accomplished anything worthwhile after 40--couldn't think of any.
KFC xinloi...the colonel never gave up... now his legacy...for better or worse... is all around the world
gawkabout...i don't think you should tell somebody to start collecting social security at 62 without doing the math
...then factor in whatever else you think may or may not enter the picture
62 isn't for everybody...at least not for me..but then time will tell & i may be wrong...
...like the above statement i always hedge my bets...wear suspenders & a belt...keep my head on a swivel...etc....i never get complacent about finances at my age
..like business deals...expect the unexpected...a little bit of fear is good going into the meeting if you don't show it...absence of it is not
xinloi: Too funny...I can't tell you how many people I have met that retired early in the US, Canada or Europe and moved overseas...and then made a ton of money. I met one yesterday here in Costa Rica. He came here poor 15 years ago and is now 65 and owns a golf course worth millions. Just parlayed his deals over the years into this one big one. God bless him...spends his days playing golf and living in his huge house overlooking the course.
Me, I did not become a millionaire until I was over 40...at 39, I did not have a penny...just debt.