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<hr>Call me crazy, but that sounds a lot like the "if you don't like it, move" argument. You even used "don't like" once and "move" twice. Whether you're telling (or if you prefer "suggesting") someone to leave his job or leave the country, either way the 'if you don't like it, leave' attitude is infantile. <hr></blockquote>Ok, I'll just have to call you crazy. You didn't even make mention of the adapting part I wrote. THAT is infantile. Sorry, but I tried to give constructive criticism. What would you have the OP do? Sit there and take it? Personally, if you can't adapt or fix the situation (as I have recommended), what is the sense in staying?
Now that we have more info from the OP, and he/she is willing to stick it out, things are behind us, but I resent people mind-reading what I wrote and ignoring some its more salient points.
As for that insipid nickname, it's given mostly because I try to present advice for newcomers in a way that gives them a more complete picture, and that completeness is often showing people a negative side here. It's practical advice, not doom and gloom, and I have often given people very constructive advice on positive aspects. I get 50 email messages a month from prospective teachers, have been asked to write FAQs, serve as moderators (and I do on one forum), and to proofread resumes (getting in return many pleasant thanks for my efforts). Nicknames roll off my back, especially in Internet forumland, and they themselves are marks of juvenile behavior, which is why I rarely use them.
My good friend " pudman " has been banned without explanation although apparently in connection with this thread so he has asked me to speak for him. Glenski is right. If the OP is not able to change the situation then why stick around. Better he/she seeks - as Daniel Boone put it - elbow room. And Glenski is right also in that although he may be the Morrissey or Janis Ian of the Forum, he does give helpful, realistic and practical advice/help. I am proud to call him " brother ". I hope "pudman" is allowed back soon from The Banned Lands (with explanation) because this is really a pain typing for him. Peace to all, goober
Bring back pudman! The sooner the better!
I also agree with Glenski, and am not really sure why he got attacked by so many people for his advice. There are some situations that you can't really change no matter what you do- possibly the OP's situation is one of them. In that case, you either have to find your own way to deal with it, or remove yourself from the situation.
My husband recently had to do this- he was setting up a new business with a workaholic Kiwi friend- yep, they do exist. Her work style is basically to make everything as hard as she possibly can and she also has a very abrasive personality, which he had tried to find a way to deal with, but when he felt he couldn't do anything more to salvage their working relationship, he left. He pulled out of the company even after he had put a lot of effort and a fair amount of his own money into it.
He is totally happy with his decision and doesn't regret it for a minute.
"If you don't like it, leave, or quit complaining" is sometimes perfectly fair advice.
And Glenski, if I may say, I think you and Pudman can co-exist if you try. You know he was joking about the Austrian/ Australian thing. Keep up the well-rounded advice and keep working on the sense of humour...
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