Rwanda is not nearly as homophobic as its East African neighbours, but that's not to say that gay people here don't face significant prejudice. Same-sex relations are not illegal in Rwanda, but that's about it. Gay people are not afforded any rights or protections such as partnership, but despite several attempts by religious groups, legislation to proscribe gay sex has not been successful. Just as it was in Uganda and Kenya a decade ago, homosexuality remains a taboo subject that most people simply never discuss or think about. Kigali has several gay-friendly locales, but otherwise, if you want to make contacts, online is the best bet. Always be cautious, however, and meet people in public places.