Lonely Planet Writer

Relationship baggage

Hitting the road with your partner can be a shock to the system in more ways than one.

steve-punterThe nature of your relationship (unmarried, mixed race or same-sex, for example) may invite attention or criticism in certain parts of the world where social and cultural norms differ.

You might modify your behaviour to avoid tension - hardly something you want to worry about when you're trying to see the world and meet new people. Or you might end up surprised at the way other birds and bees do it.

Then there’s the relationship itself. Will it survive a road test? Our biking boffins discuss the subject here. Travellers heading Round the World on Thorn Tree think a prolonged trip is crucial to see if you’ve got staying power (but it can be painful if you don't, and you realise early into a long vacation).

Sometimes it's tough to navigate. You're not always yourself when you travel. Getting to know someone by peeling off layers is hard if you're busy packing extras.

If your partner’s travel rhythm or desire doesn’t match your own, you can always leave them at home. Several members of our Women Travellers community think you shouldn't be joined at the hip, but you have to be careful about the length of time you’re apart. And beware those holiday flings

huipiiing1Tell us your travel tales of love, lust and coupling. Did travelling tighten your knit, or tear yours apart? Any advice for lovers keen to fly the coop with their paramour?

I tend to think happy travelling partnerships share a lot in common with good sex; compatible rhythms, knowing what does it for you and where your boundaries are. What about you?

[Photos: Steve Punter, huipiiing]