Thailand - End of November 2013 - Travelling alone for the first time tips
Replies: 15 - Last Post: Nov 9, 2013 10:17 PM Last Post By: NiteshK
Oct 18, 2013 6:51 AM
Thailand - End of November 2013 - Travelling alone for the first time tipsHi everyone,
Ok so i am new to all this, and looking for some help, or maybe even just some reassurance.
I'm planning to travel to Thailand (Bangkok) at the end of November for a month. It will be my first time traveling overseas so I'm pretty nervous. The only that is stopping me is that my mom is really concerned about me traveling for the first time. She is very concerned about my safety and thinks about all the possible scenarios where I end up sick or dead. I don't want to go knowing that mom will be worried sick every day. I consider my mom a very negative person and hard to talk to and there has been many past events that have ended in me not being able to do what I wanted to do. Has anyone else dealt with this before? Can you give me some tips and ways to convince my mom otherwise?
All I know is this is something i really have to do for me. If I don't do this because of my mom again, I think Im going to go crazy.
Also if anyone is travelling to Thailand at the same time(from Melbourne or anywhere) and would like to be my travel buddy, let me know :) Email: email@example.com
Thanks for taking the time to read this
Edited by: Kngu32
Oct 18, 2013 11:45 AM
Oct 18, 2013 3:07 PM
2Well, you'll have to cut the cord sooner or later. sooner is better.
you need show yer mom that you have your sh!t together and you know what you are doing:
1) visit a travel clinic once you have your itinerary roughed out. find out what you are recommended to do medically before you leave and once you are there. decide what shots/meds you need, if any.
2) get some good travel insurance that includes both Medical Evacuation and Repatriation insurances. this way if you do get hurt, the first will fly you to a good hospital in BKK or SIN, etc. the second will fly you home for further treatment if you need to be hospitalised for a long duration or are dead. Each of these flight can easily cost $20,000 because they send a doc and nurse with you on the plane, or charter a plane if need be. you dont want to stick your family with those costs.
3) study up on where you want to go -- hit your local library and take out travel books.
do all of this, by yourself, with no help. you'd be surprised how many people would have their mom book the appoinments,ect then wonder why their mom worries -- not saying this is you, but many.
4) then buy your ticket, if you havent already.
5) tell her when you are leaving, give her a photocopy of the insurance policy, your flight details, passport, travelers cheque tracers. if she asks about sickness, etc, discuss 1) to 3) and promise to send post cards and email once per week.
6) get on the plane.
7) Dont take buses from travel agencys, dont party with young Thai men, dont pass out on the beach at a FMP.
Have a great trip.
Oct 18, 2013 10:15 PM
Oct 18, 2013 10:35 PM
4Some good advice from Geer37,
Your mother's going to be asking you to keep in touch. Tell her you'll call/email when you arrive and then thereafter do not give fixed times or fixed days - Simply say I'll call some time over the weekend.
If you make fixed times, two things will happen:
1 She'll get into a panic when you are 6 hours late with your call/email - worse case she'll start posting on here asking us all to help find you.
2 She'll continue to mother you over the phone
Honestly, the break is good for both of you.
Some other tips:
Travel light - Don't bring loads of expensive stuff, you'll wind up having to carry it all or worrying about losing it.
Regularly load your photos up to the internet so if you do loose your camera at least you have not lost your shots.
Scan your passport and your insurance then email them to yourself so you have copies on line if you loose the originals. Keep a copy of your e-tickit on-line.
Write down all the important numbers you have - keep them on line, don't rely on keeping them in your phone.
Take one of those universal sink plugs with you.
The following might be useful, aimed at families but the health and safety advice is universal.
Medical Advice for Thailand
Thailand Safety Advice
Oct 18, 2013 11:02 PM
5From Australia and spells Mum as "Mom"? You have been watching too much Sesame Street, Kevin! ;-)
Go - you will have a great time.
Don't leave your brain on the plane....read up on Thailand/Bangkok scams and touts. Make sure you read up on Thai etiquette, especially regarding the Royal Family.
Have a beer for me when you get there!
Oct 18, 2013 11:56 PM
6^^ the main things to know about etiquette, especially regarding the Royal Family is not to even mention them, ever, stand up in the movies when everyone else does, stop walking when the anthem plays and don't stand on money.
The main thing about general etiquette is not to point the soles of your feet at people, as the ignorant and stupid do in KSR road side restaurants.
It's a mother's job to worry about her children! Unfortunately, mobile phones mean that you can't really get away from her nagging. I was lucky- mobile phones and the internet didn't exist when I started travelling, and no one except the very rich could make long distance phone calls. We had to make do with letters on paper. We were lucky!
Google "travelling solo" for lots of info.
Buy a good quality money belt and use it.
Don't leave your brain at immigration- if you wouldn't do it at home why do it in Thailand.
Don't be parted from your money or your passport.
Don't rent motorbikes, jet skiis or parasail.
Don't go to Phuket or Phi Phi.
Don't accept food/ drink from other people on long distance transport or you will wake up in a tub full of ice with a kidney missing- haha. Not that likely, but you might wake up without money or passport.
Don't drink with Thai men.
If you do illegal drugs in Thailand you are a fool and deserve to go to jail.
Remember that not all fellow tourists are good people.
Take a good combination padlock to use on your door.
Don't wander off alone on dark beaches.
There are no "secret islands with a community of fellow travellers actually living in Thailand" and Thais with "good deals for you" probably only want your money.
The TAT does not sell tours or accomodation.
Hostels are not the best places to sleep- guesthouse rooms are cheap. Use the safety box or safe.
Thieves know all the "best" places to hide money in your room.
Do read up on scams in Thailand.
Do stay near, but not on Khao San Rd and hook up with a group.
However, the most important thing to remember is that not all Thai "ladies" are in fact female, LOL.
Oct 19, 2013 12:36 AM
7Thanks for the advice guys.
From what thaibeachlovers said, should i "never" stay in hostels? Guestrooms are more expensive if I was to live in it by myself. Considering that I will meet other like minded people in Thailand, there will be opportunities where I could share accommodation costs. Or I could couchsurf. So should I consider hostels as a last resort then?
And Persona_Non_Grata mentioned to not give fixed times/calls after I arrive, what if she demands that I have to ? Knowing her, she may want me to contact her everyday to make sure that I am safe. What should I say then?
Being 20 years old, I find it ridiculous that I have to contact her everyday.
Oct 19, 2013 1:28 AM
8Guesthouse rooms with ensuite are available for under 500 baht even in Bkk. Only if you can't afford that should you need to sleep with other people's farts, and often dorm rooms can cost more than singles in a guesthouse.
People get together in the common room or restaurants.
BTW, outside Bkk, dorm rooms are the exception, and hard to find.
I don't know that you even can couchsurf in Thailand.
Just tell your mum that you won't be able to call her at fixed times from here, because you are a big boy now.
Oct 19, 2013 1:33 AM
9Hostels, guest houses, stay in what works best for you. If you do stay in a hostel and dont like it, you can always move. Cheap places only expect each day paid at a time.
You're 20. tbl is most likely 3 times older with an older persons thinking and has forgotten that young solo travellers like to use hostels.
Edited by: westwood
Oct 19, 2013 7:17 AM
Oct 19, 2013 7:29 AM
11One thing that always works for me is to tell my Mum the places I am going (I'm 28 now but this has been working for 10 years and still makes her happy) and she goes off and researches them herself. I don't give her a strict itinerary but by doing this it makes her feel somewhat included on the trip and reassured that I'm not heading off to some brothel-ridden shantytown. Actually, there have been times that she has emailed me recommendations of things to do/places to stay that have turned out to be great!
You will meet people all the time to share rooms with - mostly whilst travelling from one place to another on the bus. Personally I have never stayed in dorm rooms (with one exception in Uganda - and got robbed) and never would. There are not may here though.
My main tips, to add to tbl...
- If you take a tourist 'VIP' bus from Khao San Road in Bangkok to anywhere, know as a fact that they will rummage through your bag whilst it's in the holding booth (secret doors connect the drivers to the baggage room and then to the main part of the bus) so keep all valuables on you - keep your passport and wallet in your moneybag whilst sleeping as they sometimes go through your hand baggage too.
- Use condoms, obviously. Far too much dirty sex going on in this country. If you do take a girl/boy home, don't leave your valuables out whilst you shower.
- Always ask taxi's to put on their meter (say 'meter dai mai') and agree to a fare before getting into a tuk-tuk (which are always more expensive than taxis - if not, they have another trick up their sleeve for you).
Anyway, this is all feeling very negative. Thailand is wonderful and you are about to have the time of your life. If you want a drink in Bangkok when you arrive, feel free to message me (give good notice as I don't often check).
Oct 19, 2013 7:46 PM
12Only one tip, as everybody else has given you heaps.
Just to repeat - do NOT even consider travelling without full insurance. Can recommend TID. Travel Insurance Direct. Reliable no-nonsense - just as good if you need to claim as they are when you first quote and pay. http://www.travelinsurancedirect.com.au/
You will be fine. Take on board most of the above, but don't spoil it all by overthinking it, you'll just be another one of thousands of greenies arriving the same day, and you'll meet them everywhere and will be able to compare notes and share drinks. Enjoy!
Oct 20, 2013 5:53 PM
13"And Persona_Non_Grata mentioned to not give fixed times/calls after I arrive, what if she demands that I have to"
what if she demands? you're here whining to a bunch of strangers asking what you should do when mommy demands something of you? Sorry, but the only piece of advice that comes to mind is "grow a pair".
I tried to bite my tongue, but my god man, listen to yourself...
Oct 21, 2013 5:53 AM
14Thanks for the insight Jack. By posting this, I start to realize that I'm not going to do something because someone said its not possible or it might not be safe or blah or blah.
I've read my previous post and yes, I sound like a pussy. So thanks for making me realize that. I'm taking charge from now on.
Anyway thanks so much for the tips guys, I really appreciate it.
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