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My first big trip many years ago was on the back of a break up. We had planned to travel together but he told me at all most the last minute that he wouldn't be going. Our relationship had been sh*t for a long time but we always seemed to end up back together as we shared all the same friends etc.

So I went on my trip, as my tickets were already paid for. The first two weeks were really hard and I cried a few times as I was lonely and a little scared. After that, I meet some great people and my confidence grew. It turned out to have been the absolute best thing I could have done and it really made me into a different person.

So, go for it!

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OP, so how long are you planning to stay? Age group? Interests? How good are you at organising yourself? budget? etc. etc.

Those sites are aimed at GYF's .... usually staying at lest 12 months or something similar... a lot of it you could organise yourself, however they may be good as an opportunity to meet new people ...

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Hi,
Well, I went by myself and had a great time.
If you can, rent a small car and just toodle around..
I was there for 3 weeks, ate some crocidile and had a great time.
Came out in 2nd week of November and misses a typhon that fltened Inisfail!
Met lots of nice people!

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no worries your worst enemy is yourself . getting over what you feel is life shattering ev ent but realy just another chapter in your life. so simply join iyha hostel assoc online . book into whatever one that has location that strikes your fancy and prepare yourself for real great time. in them it will be whatever you make of it.

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I would say that this is definitely the perfect time for you to go out there and maybe just be a bit selfish and find yourself spend time doing what you want to do and not worrying about pleasing someone else. So definitely go for it :D

I would personally say that you don't need to spend that extra money on ozintro etc I am going out in february and along with some others from another forum we have set up a group on facebook and there are close to 80 people on it all going to oz from jan-march sort of time the majority in feb the majority of which are going alone or with just one other person, I personally am going alone but I have already arranged to meet up with 5/6 people. So I would say you really don't need to worry about being lonely :) (if you are planning on going early-mid 2013 let me know and I will send you the link to the group)

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I did the same... Went and lived overseas on the back of a breakup (of a 10 year- 7 of those married) relationship.
I wouldn't go with any kind of company.. I'd decode where I wanted to go first, book a weeks accommodation there and go from there. :)

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I'm just about to go to Melbourne to visit my now ex-boyfriend who left me 4 weeks before I'm due to go visit. I'll now be travelling on my own but not going to cancel as I'm not going to let him stop me having the experience!

I know my situation is pretty different but I'm hoping that going and doing this on my own will help me move on as it's still pretty raw - I'll let you know how it goes!

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hiya, i don’t know if this is any help but when i started planning to go travelling i looked into places like Ozintro, gap360 etc but was told by people not to really bother. I think they're great if moneys no object but they cost around £400-£500 a week and offer stuff you can do on your own like helping book your visa etc which is so so easy. I'm travelling to Melbourne mid January on my own and everybody said you meet so many people in the hostels and things like that doing the same kinda thing as you so you won’t have any problems meeting people and getting started off.
Depending on what your plan is a lot of people travel up or down the east coast and I’ve heard nothing but good things about it! Someone I know told me the other day he started in Sydney and booked just one week there to start off with. He then went to a travel desk, told them he wanted to see as much as possible up the east coast and as cheaply as possible and they helped him book tours etc and told him places that would be good to go etc he travelled using grey hound and was able to just jump on and off over the space of a couple of months or something and loved it! If you do want a bit of time of your own the intro packages wouldn’t be great for you anyway as you’d be with a lot of people. Starting off on your own atleast then gives you the option of having a quiet couple of weeks or whatever and then making an effort to get to know people and stuff when youre more ready to. As somebody said above have a look at YHA. They’re a good and well known company to start off with (good reviews and things like that) and have pretty good hostel prices. You can book a private room or a shared room. Maybe book a week with one and go from there. You’ll have such a good time you wont have time to think about your ex!
hope this (essay!) helps! x

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I agree with the posts above - you might not need a tour group - stay at YHAs or Air B&B (with locals), and you'll meet people and have more flexibility.