Solo Travel or with a Friend?
Replies: 18 - Last Post: Jul 5, 2012 1:17 AM Last Post By: kmingnath
Jul 2, 2012 3:26 PM
15Yes being stuck in some strange town at 2 am can certainly be a creepy experience. However one could try to learn the local language (writing system + basic vocab). Then you'd be stuck for a day or two but have a great story to tell when you got home!
I disagree that it's safer to travel with a friend.
Jul 3, 2012 9:05 AM
16The problem is there is no right answer to the question of whether to travel alone or with someone else. Both can be great and both can be terrible. The only way to know is to do it and even then whether it is great or terrible can differ each time you travel.
I have travelled solo for extended periods of time and also with someone else for extended periods. I have never had a bad experience doing either. On the other hand I'm sure it is not difficult at all to find people who have hated being alone or hated being with someone else.
My advice is to go with your friend but have a frank conversation beforehand acknowledging that neither of you knows how it will work out. Hope for the best and plan for the worst. If it goes well, no problem. It if does not, then agree to part without it affecting your friendship when you are re-united back home. Difficult but not impossible if you really have an agreement that that is how it will be.
Jul 3, 2012 10:09 PM
I don't think there is really a right answer to your question, which is an answer in itself I guess :)
My first solo backpacking adventure was the best thing I have ever done, and it changed my life. I met some amazing people and had some amazing experiences. It definitely forced me out of my shell so to speak, and has given me what I think will be a life long passion for travel.
I think the advice above about not planning too much in advance is really good. If you don't book anything in advance (which you don't need to in Asia!!!!) you and your mate can always part ways if it's not working. It would prob be a good idea to talk things through with him in advance.
Some things to think about IMO.....
Traveling as a duo is cheaper and easier!
Solo travel can sometimes be really lonely. But I think in some ways loneliness can be a good experience:)
Do you have similar temperaments? Similar ideas of comfort? Budget?
Is it worth your time walking for an extra hour in the Asian heat to save a dollar on accom?
Does it bother you if things don't run on time?
Do you expect a certain level of service in a restaurant?
Can you handle the smell of each others poo?
Does he have your back and do you have his?
Are you a relaxed person, or more energetic etc.
It doesn't really matter what you answer to any of the above, as long as your friend and you have similar answers you should be fine:) if things like buses running late and touts really bother you, it is great if they bother your friend too! Moral support and all that.
If they bother him alot, and he complains all the time, and you aren't really bothered, eventually you will piss each other off, and vice versa.
It can be great to have someone to share experiences with.
I'd say make sure you actively hang out with other travelers too - ie form a bigger travel group on the road.
Personally I'm really relaxed. I'm happy to sit on a bus all day or walk for ages, stay up late drinking or get up early to see temples ( or both!). I like to just see what happens really.
Travel is different for everybody, there is no right or wrong way IMO
Finally, I personally wouldn't bother with Fiji....
I'm a kiwi and have been to all the islands. Fiji is overpriced, and the beaches in Thailand are a million times better!! Try koh lipe I reckon.
Have a great trip!!!!!! :)
Jul 5, 2012 1:17 AM
18The solo traveler is always more subject to being mugged or drugged..because you don't have someone to "run interference" for you...if confronted by the wrong people
Most muggers are opportunistic... They don't want to mess with two or more people...which makes things more complex
I don't think it makes much of a difference whether you are with someone or not - if someone has a gun or knife, they can easily hold up a group of people. I know groups of guys who have been mugged. On the other hand, of all the girls travelling alone that I've met, not one of them have been mugged.
As for being drugged, as long as you refuse food and drinks from strangers, you will be fine.
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